I am friends with The Knot on Facebook and today’s status update was this article -
Love it!! Here are the Wedding Problems: 10 Questions from Wedding Guests You Don't Need to Answer along with my thoughts about each one!
1. How much is the wedding reception costing you?
**Unless it’s your very best friend who is also planning her wedding and needs to know if she’s getting ripped off then this person is just being nosy! And honestly.... your BFF could be too! Tread lightly – it’s no ones business unless they are paying the bill or your planner who is monitoring the bills.
2. Can you make sure not to set your date for [insert date here] -- I have a vacation already planned!
**Bon Voage!! Hope you enjoy your vacation! No one should be setting stipulations on your wedding date. Maybe a siblings wedding, graduation, or due date – things that would truly prevent your closest family from being there or having to make a decision on which to attend.
3. What table am I sitting at?
**The one with chairs! The one I put you at! The one in the back hall with the dusty lampshade! The one where you are served good food and conversation! The one I paid for! These are all acceptable answers to that question.
4. Why didn't you invite [insert name here]?
**Well occationally this isn’t a bad thing a) maybe your actually did forget someone b) maybe their invite got lost in the mail and you didn’t even know it c)maybe you didn’t know so and so had been seeing a new guy for 6 months and he should have been invited. But if you knew all this and chose not to invite someone for your own reasons, then that is all the Nosy Nancy needs to know. If it’s the uninvited themselves asking – answer as honestly as possible, or blame it on the space allowance, the budget, whatever.
5. Is this really a "white wedding"?
**HA! LOL!! Do people really ask this question?? UM, geez I don’t even know if I have a smart arse come back or if I would just look at them and say “Really? Honestly? Really? You’re going to ask me that?” Then shake my head and walk away!
6. How many carats is that ring anyway?
Oh come on your
jealous I mean curious girlfriends are going to ask that question! And you are going to proudly tell them the answer!
7. Who's your favorite bridesmaid?
Just them all they are your favorite. That’s what I plan to do with my kids!
8. Did you get that idea from my wedding?
Yes, matter of fact I did. You should be honored I liked anything from your tacky wedding!
9. Are you paying for any of this?
Well actually we robbed a bank, sold some blood and organs, and pawned Steve’s grandmothers furniture but yeah we’re paying for it.
10. Don't you think the six-tiered wedding cake is a bit much?
No way, we have cake for every birthday between now and next year – want some?
All kidding aside, don’t get wrapped up in rude questions or comments! Answer honestly and without emotion when you need to and confront someone if it’s becoming a problem. Simply say “Listen, I really enjoy sharing my wedding details with you but you’re bumming me out! Please if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all”
Got a rude question from a wedding guest? Share it with us…
If you are reading this blog you are probably planning a wedding and do we have some great news for you!
Proposing Dreams Wedding and Events is excited to announce the opening of The Wedding Design Studio; a comprehensive studio offering brides complimentary access to an extensive vault of wedding resources. A concept seen around the country, but not yet in St. Louis… until now!
The Wedding Design Studio is a haven, a creative stomping ground, if you will, for brides to escape, kick back, and have fun planning their wedding. Guests may browse our professional member portfolios, bridal magazines, color swatches, planning and etiquette books, and so much more! Special events will include open houses hosted by top wedding professionals, cake tastings, mini bridal shows and networking parties with local vendors.
Planning a wedding should be fun, not stressful… we’re here to make that happen! And the best part.....it's all FREE!! No where else in St. Louis can you get professional advice and access to such amazing tools with no pressure and no cost to you.
See more online at www.theweddingdesignstudiostl.com and please come by and check us out!
Bridal Open House for The Wedding Design Studio! Join us for our open house on Wednesday, September 9th, 2009 from 4:00pm-8:00pm (happy hour from 5:00-6:00 with drinks and snacks) at 3520-1 Greenwood Blvd. Maplewood, Mo. 63143. We’re looking forward to seeing you!
Here are a few photos from our Professionals Open House, excuse my lack of photography talents:
Table Display by Aries Co
Centerpiece by Sisters Flowers
Table Stationery by Dickey Designs
Hightop Table and New High Chivaris from Aries Co
A little snack display by Proposing Dreams
Our comfy couch area
back of the Studio - that's our little office behind the screen.
Information Central - 40 Categories with 10 amazing wedding professional in each!
WOW!! I have been BUSY!!! Hence the lack of blog activity but we're coming back!!
So just for today here is a look at my to-do list:
Hey Guys & Gals, booking season is upon us Jan 1 is just 29 days away! Traditionally we in the industry will see an increase in the begining of the year due to Christmas, New Years, and Valentines Day proposals along with 2009 couples thinking "oh heck, I gotta get on it!!" but for the past two weeks I have had availability requests just pouring in! Some smart folks are getting a jump on it before the regular booking season starts. Don't wait!! We and many other vendors will start to fill up quickly.
Things to remember:
1) Meet with the vendors make sure they mesh with you! You don't want to regret any decisions.
2) Know what you want; bring examples, ask questions, get referrals.
3) Consider a "day of appointments". Take a day off work and meet with vendors during a weekday. Make your schedule out to meet one after the other and get it all done!
4) Know your budget and your priorities! Try to have a budget in mind. Ask about ways to stay within your budget. If your wants don't fit with their cost but you love the vendor, look at other areas that you wouldn't mind making cuts. I understand not everyone knows what to expect for costs but keep a running total of estimates you may have to reconsider after falling in love with something new.
5) Follow-up, even if you choose not to use someone you met with please don't leave them hanging. Understand you are talking about someone's living and they need to know asap if you have chosen a different route. We all understand not every appointment is going to work out, just let us/them know with a quick email. Thank them for their time and explain you have chosen another company. If you can give any insight that might help them in the future they appreciate that too.
We want to know, are you blogging? We get inspiration from our clients too! I have been working on my Google Reader list and it's been so helpful already. Please email me your blog url so I can had it to the list.