I am friends with The Knot on Facebook and today’s status update was this article -
Love it!! Here are the Wedding Problems: 10 Questions from Wedding Guests You Don't Need to Answer along with my thoughts about each one!
1. How much is the wedding reception costing you?
**Unless it’s your very best friend who is also planning her wedding and needs to know if she’s getting ripped off then this person is just being nosy! And honestly.... your BFF could be too! Tread lightly – it’s no ones business unless they are paying the bill or your planner who is monitoring the bills.
2. Can you make sure not to set your date for [insert date here] -- I have a vacation already planned!
**Bon Voage!! Hope you enjoy your vacation! No one should be setting stipulations on your wedding date. Maybe a siblings wedding, graduation, or due date – things that would truly prevent your closest family from being there or having to make a decision on which to attend.
3. What table am I sitting at?
**The one with chairs! The one I put you at! The one in the back hall with the dusty lampshade! The one where you are served good food and conversation! The one I paid for! These are all acceptable answers to that question.
4. Why didn't you invite [insert name here]?
**Well occationally this isn’t a bad thing a) maybe your actually did forget someone b) maybe their invite got lost in the mail and you didn’t even know it c)maybe you didn’t know so and so had been seeing a new guy for 6 months and he should have been invited. But if you knew all this and chose not to invite someone for your own reasons, then that is all the Nosy Nancy needs to know. If it’s the uninvited themselves asking – answer as honestly as possible, or blame it on the space allowance, the budget, whatever.
5. Is this really a "white wedding"?
**HA! LOL!! Do people really ask this question?? UM, geez I don’t even know if I have a smart arse come back or if I would just look at them and say “Really? Honestly? Really? You’re going to ask me that?” Then shake my head and walk away!
6. How many carats is that ring anyway?
Oh come on your jealous I mean curious girlfriends are going to ask that question! And you are going to proudly tell them the answer!
7. Who's your favorite bridesmaid?
Just them all they are your favorite. That’s what I plan to do with my kids!
8. Did you get that idea from my wedding?
Yes, matter of fact I did. You should be honored I liked anything from your tacky wedding!
9. Are you paying for any of this?
Well actually we robbed a bank, sold some blood and organs, and pawned Steve’s grandmothers furniture but yeah we’re paying for it.
10. Don't you think the six-tiered wedding cake is a bit much?
No way, we have cake for every birthday between now and next year – want some?
All kidding aside, don’t get wrapped up in rude questions or comments! Answer honestly and without emotion when you need to and confront someone if it’s becoming a problem. Simply say “Listen, I really enjoy sharing my wedding details with you but you’re bumming me out! Please if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all”
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